When people talk about spiritual parenting, or parenting as a spiritual path, I often think it's not clear what that really means. And, of course, it is a very individual thing for each of us.
I would definitely say I am a 'spiritual parent'.
What this means to me is that:
- I do not see my children (or anyone) as being defined by or restricted to a body or physical expression. We are souls on a journey and we are in a body to learn and connect and remember our wholeness. (I explain this in more depth here: http://hollieholden.blogspot.co.uk/2013/08/true-love-is-seeing-beyond-body.html)
- I align myself with divine support and guidance as I parent. I pray, meditate and ask 'What would Love do?' as often as possible.
- I try to go easy on myself - and encourage others to do the same - as I trust the unfolding of Life for all of us. I do not feel I need to protect my children from life (or even my own shouty moments!) because I trust that they are held and guided by something greater than ourselves and that I am too. We are all learning and doing our best.
- I invite in guidance and support a few times a day, specifically by thanking our angels. I do this out loud and my children know how to do this too. If they feel lost or lonely, they know they have guardian angels looking out for them and they know they can call on that support any time.
- As best I can, I trust in divine timing and in the support Life offers me in every moment.
- I believe that the mundane tasks of parenting, the small things we do over and over again, can be treated as a spiritual path in their own right. Becoming present, not resisting the daily grind and making peace with the washing up is my goal ! As Pema Chodron says, 'Whatever is happening is the path to enlightenment'.
- I believe that our inner lives create our outer reality. So I work on my inner spiritual issues and growth to help my children and family and to create more peace and balance.
- I believe in the power of gratitude to keep us aligned with the truth about ourselves and those around us. Even finding a couple of things a day that we are grateful for keeps us focussed on what's important and makes us look for things in every moment.
- I believe in forgiveness (and that includes the all-important self-forgiveness) and its power to refresh and reset and bring us a truer way of seeing the world. It also helps when I forget to do all of the above.
I would love to hear from others who follow a similar path. How do you define what you do and what are your daily practices?
I am going to write a blog specifically about prayer and angelic support soon as this is so central to how I parent and I would love to start sharing it with others...
Taken by my daughter - this pretty much sums up being a mum for me.
This is what happens when I try to meditate...